I once had a couple that was so equally introverted that they walked down the aisle together with no music because they did not want too much focus on them at the start of the ceremony. The officiant kept waiting for me to give her a considerable cue to let her know when to let the audience know when to rise. What she didn’t know is that the couple insisted that they did not want that. They just wanted to stroll up to the altar. They didn’t have a wedding party, so there was no need for a huge processional. It happens more and more! Couples are being true to themselves and planning a wedding that reflects their personality.
So how do you plan a wedding if you are an introvert? First, you will want to reduce the amount of upcoming pressure you are soon to feel with planning. This is where I suggest you start with a planner. There will be hundreds, yes, hundreds of complex decisions to be made during the planning process; meanwhile, lots of family and friends will be questioning your every choice. Avoid the drama by adding an objective ally to help will keep the questions to a minimum.
The next thing you can do is to plan to skip the traditions that normal weddings have. I encourage my couples to customize their wedding day, including skipping out on traditions that don’t reflect your personality. Especially since those traditions often require you to be front and center in a crowd of guests. You don’t have to do a first dance, bouquet toss, or a cake cutting during your wedding reception. Removing those items will make you a better host for not holding your guest hostage in another overly performed wedding tradition.
And you can shake things up like the couple I mentioned earlier and skipped the wedding party. This means fewer opinions immediately. You can avoid having a huge entourage shadowing you and drawing more attention to your every move. It is also a relief to friends and family who were not looking forward to buying David’s Bridal new arrival of bridesmaid dress or tux rental. It can be costly to be at a wedding, so it can be a win/win situation for all to avoid the huge wedding party.
Ultimately there is no wrong way to the wedding. So don’t feel bad for skipping out on wedding day traditions if they make you uncomfortable. Instead, keep the focus of your wedding day on, making it a special experience for you and your love.
Entyse Lyfe is here to guide you in deciding what ceremony is right for you as a couple during these funky times. There are so many options and so many details to sort out. Our goal is to give you the wedding of your dreams. Register for an online Wedding Workshop with us to learn more.