Getting Married During COVID?
Updated: Sep 1
There’s a lot to think about when planning your big day—no matter where your wedding date falls on the calendar. But, if it happens to be in the midst of the coronavirus crisis, you might be wondering what you should do to prepare and plan for the potential that your wedding may be affected.
There are countless moving parts surrounding COVID-19—and since this situation is ongoing, what it means for your wedding, specifically, really depends on your wedding date, guest count, location, and extent of travel involved. Brides.com's recent article identifies a list of top questions and concerns that engaged couples have in relation to these funky times.
In addition to the questions that we recommend to ask your venue, we think the following Q&A may help guide you and put you at ease. You are not alone during this!
Looking for more info on wedding planning during Covid-19? Check out our Five Tips for Mindful Wedding Planning. Attending one of our online wedding workshops may also help calm your nerves and provide you with the opportunity to get your questions answered virtually. Our workshops cover many important wedding planning topics and feature local photographers, musicians, artists, caterers, bakers, entertainers, boutique owners, officiants, florists & designers.
Q: I’m considering postponing. How soon should I make the final call and notify guests?
A: Every situation is different, but generally speaking, to allow for a process with far less stress, we recommend that the decision be made approximately three to five months out.
Q: January wedding planned, should we be contacting the venue to see about postponing now?
A: Just for peace of mind, absolutely! Contact all your vendors ASAP to ensure that they all have a courtesy hold for you on your second date so that you already have a rollover option in case January doesn't work out.
Q: How should I celebrate my original wedding date?
A: Celebrate as fabulously as you want to! Have a glass of champagne, have a fabulous dinner, and cheers to your love.
Q: Micro-wedding tips?
A: So now that your guest count is smaller, this might be an opportunity for you to refocus your budget. You can get the photographer who initially felt out of reach to you when you had 250 guests, or maybe the wedding planner wanted to design the most incredible dinner for you and your nearest and dearest.
Q: Can I elope and party later?
A: Absolutely! My favorite part of photographing a wedding is the portraits, and an elopement can be a great extension of that time. Please focus on the two of you guys now and party later with your people when it is safe to do so.
Q: How can I make my at-home wedding extra special?
A: Think of all the things that are sentimental to you about home and what spaces really have meaning. Your favorite tree in the backyard where you used to do summer reading? It sounds like the perfect spot for your ceremony, and know that each time you return, it's now going to be all the more special because you exchanged vows there.
Q: Is it worth it to even book a DJ with social distancing expectations?
A: What's a celebration without music? Don't let coronavirus take away your spark. Play some mid-tempo music—I promise you you'll thank me later!
Q: How to "disinvite" guests due to COVID size restrictions?
A: I think when it comes to downsizing your guest count for your wedding right now, people are really understanding. Maybe you can explore other options such as live streaming in private groups or video conference call-ins so that people who can't be there physically can still celebrate with you.
Q: What should 2021 couples be doing now?
A: As a 2021 bride myself, I know that it can be hard to be excited right now. But my advice to you is: Stay patient with yourself as things unfold and go over any and all booking policies that your vendors have intact so that you guys can be on the same page if things change.
Q: How can I still take good photos of my at-home wedding? Self-timer?
A: One way you can get creative if you don't have a photographer for your ceremony is by setting up a camera on a tripod and recording it. Then, at a later date, have your photographer come and get those quality photos that you want.
Q: How to politely downsize a postponed wedding?
A: I think the global pandemic is such a new thing that no one has ever experienced that breaking the etiquette rules is not a problem in this situation. I think people will be very understanding. I think the right way to do it is to have the couple call their guests individually and let them know that, unfortunately, you're going to have to downsize for these reasons and that you're sorry.
Q: I moved my wedding from May to September. Do I need to rethink colors?
A: You can stick with your original color scheme. The only colors that really change a lot in the seasons are shades of green. So in the springtime, a bright green might be a good olive green for the early fall.
Q: Do you need to send new save-the-dates and invitations if your wedding has been postponed?
A: I know this is a very complicated question, and it depends on so many scenarios, but if you've already sent your invitations, don't feel pressured that you have to send another save-the-date and another invitation. I think just sending one really great invitation announcing the new date will do the trick.
Q: How do you suggest handling relatives that insist on you postponing your July wedding?
A: Approach with a lot of communication and empathy when discussing postponement with relatives during this time. Is their reasoning purely financial? Is it your guests' inability to travel? Is it your wedding location that's causing concern?
Q: Is it safe to keep my wedding dress in a garment bag for 8 months?
A: I recommend keeping it hanging in the garment bag on the hanger strap, not on the shoulder strap, because you don't want it to stretch. And if you get a moment to give it some breathing room every couple weeks, that's also a great idea.
Q: What do I do if my deposits are nonrefundable, and my vendors won't cancel/postpone. Do I continue?
A: Talk to your highest priority vendors first. We're all in this together and try to be as accommodating as possible, but safety is the number one priority, so do go ahead and postpone your date to keep your guests and family safe.
Q: Will suppliers change the date?
A: I'm hoping that all the vendors and suppliers out there will be as flexible as possible to help with these postponements and change the dates. If not, there are other amazing vendors out there that will be willing to help you. Fingers crossed!
If you are looking for a way to learn more about how to navigate this entire Wedding Planning process, you should check out our Wedding Workshops. This interactive workshop for the newly engaged takes the guesswork out of planning your wedding day. It simplifies the process, keeping you ahead of the game.