Updated: Nov 19, 2019
Staying in Sync is Harder Than You Think
Do you want to know just how different you and your spouse are? Try planning a wedding together. He may be more on the traditional side, while you are in love with a modern look and feel. You might think the ceremony is the most important part of the day, while he is focused on the reception. It happens all the time! Most couples have never planned such a big event together. I’ve helped countless couples through the process, so I want to share some words of wisdom to help all you brides and grooms achieve true wedded bliss on your special day. Here’s what to do:
Make Decisions Together
Make decisions about your wedding together. No issue is too small. If you’re choosing the color of the napkins, check with your S.O. to make sure they are on board with your selection. Let them know if the supplier is out of the cake toppers you chose; don’t just pick a substitute and expect they will love it the way you do.
Keep Lines of Communication Open
This is essential to not only the planning of your wedding, but also the health of your relationship. Planning a wedding can be a tremendous stressor for couples. Keeping an honest line of communication open will keep tensions from getting out of control. It will also cut down on disappointment and unnecessary surprises. If you don’t discuss ahead of time how you will feed each other cake and you think your bride-to-be will think it’s hysterical if you smash frosting into her $300 makeup job, this could put a damper on the day.
Take a Break from Planning
It’s easy to allow wedding planning to take over your life. Planning a wedding involves lots of stress and pressure, even if you have a wedding planner to help. Your wedding day is the biggest day of your lives as a couple. All your friends and relatives will be there to take part in your celebration. You want them to enjoy your wedding and remember it as a wonderful and beautiful day. You don’t want them to remember how the tier supports gave out on your wedding cake or how your sister had to be rushed to the hospital when she twisted her ankle trying to catch the bouquet. Take a break and enjoy some date nights where the topic of your wedding is strictly prohibited. This is the start of your life together as husband and wife; you will need to get used to working as a team. Planning a wedding is great practice! You don’t have to agree on everything; in fact, disagreeing will help you learn to compromise.
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